Category: the Rant Board
I'm so sick of the way my dad treats me. He's very selfish, and he wants me to be all admiring of him, but how the fuck can I be when he accused my 37-year-old best friend of fucking me in a bathroom? He knew it didn't happen, but he lied and made up a story to get everyone on his side. I feel degraded when I'm with him cause he says things to me like, "You'd better hope you make a lot of money some day, so you can hire a maide," when I was vacuming the other day. Yeah. That made me feel great. My parentsare devorced, so I live with my mom part of the time and Dad the other, but I've had enough of this degrading trash talk. I'm planning on telling my mom what he's saying, but I'm trying to come from a hurt angle, which I am. I love my dad with all my heart, and it hurts me to hear that shit, but it needs to stop. Now. What do you all think?
I think Alex is a prick for taking advantage of you Sam, but I don't like the way your dad talks to you or treats you. I wouldn't be surprised if something did happen between you and Alex, but it ain't my business. It should be your father's job to worry about that shit though, but talking about hiring a maid is stupid. I think you are capable of taking care of yourself, and I do think you will be making a lot of money singing or acting.
NJ
When I lived with my step father he would always being yelling at me for something it seemed. And he would take away my cd player for the dumbest things. He and my step sister were best buds but whenever I was around him I felt like an outsider. He always acted like mister nioce dad around my friends and teachers but at home he was a total jack ass! He even said something in an i e p meeting that got me upset in front of my social worker and all or most of my teachers. My teachers in hiigh school saw through him and I finally llearned to realize that he was a controll freak.
Sam, you are right that it needs to stop. The bit concerning your friend will likely never stop, whether it's about that friend or any other. You're his little girl, and he will never really like any potential partner especially anyone considerably older. I'm sorry to say that his protectiveness, even if iverly so is something you will have to try and accept. However, to be digrading about your cleaning skills for example is aweful, he should be ether helping you to learn how to improve such things, or helping you find someone else who might. Sadly many if not all of us go through may situations like that, and there is little I can say of comfort. I'm glad though that you are mature enough to understand you still love him, even if you are hurt and find it difficult to respect him for what he's doing.
Gandalph, You obviously appear to know both sam and the guy in question you call Alex. However, Sam has said nothing happened, so how he took advantage is kind of difficult to see. However, thoughts of him, what he does or doesn't do, and what might or might not happen in the future between sam and him, were totally irrelevant to what she asked. Do you have some kind of isue? are you maybe jealous?
Wait, so you are 16 and going out with a 37 year old guy (according to the replies it seems like Alex is the guy in question, I may be misunderstanding) and you think your dad is wrong being a little worried about that?
You're not even legal.
Sure, the cleaning comment wasn't nice, but, heck, I'd like to be able to afford a mate myself *grin*.
But if my daughter were going out with some 37 year odl dude I'd have a huge problem with that, after 20, when she's living on her own, sure, she can do waht she wants. When she's 16, I would not be happy and I think most parents would feel the same way.
cheers
-B
Agreed with b, no 16 year old should have a friend or boyfriend twice her age, reguardless of what they do or don't do physically.
My dad was a jerk and I eventually stood up to him. Then he died so I'm glad I got the chance to do so.
And, Bird, no, I am not jealous. I just hgappen to know a little more about this situation, and I know that even if something didn't happen physically between him and Sam, which I doubt, that a relationship with this dude is out of line. However, Going back to what I said, it is wrond for your father to be treating you like that, but I wold see his point if all my daughter did is go out with 37-year-old dudes and it and talk on the phone. Not sayin that that is all you do, but still.
Ok first of all, they're not dating. and, as it has been said, the maid comment was clearly uncalled for. sam'll reply tomorrow.
Sam, your dad's comment was a bit unnecessary, and if that's the way he regularly talks to you then I can see why it's upsetting. But that should just be all the more reason for you to do something with your life and show him that you are perfectly capable of taking care of yourself, which I know you are. Chin up, sweetie, and best of luck if you decide to talk to him about it or do something else to make it stop.
Also, agreed with Jared and B. Even though apparently Sam's not dating the thirty-seven-year-old guy, I find it worrying on many, many levels that a sixteen- and thirty-seven-year-old are 'best friends'. But, as Gandalph so eloquently says, it ain't my business.
Also, Brooke, I am not sure by what comment you're referring to that is uncalled for. Sam mentioned that she had a best friend. As I know her, I know there is a little something else goin on. Even if not, it is obvious that this guy has nothing better to do with his life then make best friends with a 16-year-old!!
Even though you know her, it would seem obvious you're no friend. If you were, you'd not feel the need to discuss something currently unmentioned by her in a public forum.
Sure if her father's only concern was the age difference then it would be valid. this isn't the case given by the original post.
That is not the only thing I discussed. I merely used the age difference to get Sam off this dude. Sam, like I said before. Your father was out of line with his comments, but that doesn't change the fact that I don't doubt that something happened with Alex, and I don't doubt the fact that you should get up and do something with your life.
Being an actor or a professional singer is very rare, so explore other things. Like, for instance, how about your great writing. Why not be an author, or a writing teacher?
Hahahaha, lets drag peoples private lives all over the zone! You idiots never learn.
People bring out their private lives all over the zone.
It does happen often but let's try to be supportive.
no, you stupid ignorant asshole. Sam brought up the age of said guy, you brought up the extent of the relationship, that was uncalled for, and unnecesary. Should we find someone who can bring into question your relationships, and plaster it all over the boards? so grow up and pull your head in, until sam is able to defend herself.
You do that. I brought up the relationship up merely because Ms. Sam said that he was her "best friend". Now, tell me that is not a relationship. Why does a 16-year-old have a best friend who goes into the bathroom with her? And, Sam, you want to defend yourself, go ahead. Come on. Just don't start crying when your father finds out what you've written about him, and wait until Grandview finds out what is being written on their computer.
My personal opinion is that this is more than a friend. God only knows what went on in that bathroom.
However, it doesn't make that "father's atitude" right.
No, it doesn't. However, I can understand how he felt.
I said I wouldn't reply to this damned topic, but here I go. There WAS NOTHING GOING ON. If you don't believe me, that's your own problem. Also, did I ever say anything about an Alex? I think not, so can we please get back to what this board is really about? I don't want to spend time speaking to deaf ears on a subject that this board wasn't intended upon.
kev, i think your being a bit harsh on this person telling us the missing pieces to this story! As you said, it may be none of our business! But, the poster of this board made it that way. She shouldn't be coming on here posting half the truth wanting us all to form our opinions and siding with her, if she didnt want the entire truth put out there. I mean come on what the hell would a thirty some year old be doing hanging out with a sixteen year old girl. and not only that, but hanging out with her in the bathroom? come on now! We weren't all just born yestrday! An i don't see how you can sit there and say he braught it all out in the open. and this wasn't what the board was ment for. No, you, as in the poster of this board, braught it out in the open, you started this bored, and did mention this guy and your dad not likeing him. just failed to give us the entire reason! I'm sure that was done on purpose! This other person posting must obviously know you and your dad, so he has right to defend what you are posting! if it's not the entire story and your wanting people to side with you. he shouldn't have to sit back and watch it all happen, when he know's different! he wasn't saing bad about you, he was simply stating the facts, a sixteen year old girl has no need to be hanging out wiht someone double there age! For the poster to this board, i have talked to you a few times on the phone thingy. you seem like a nice person, so this isn't a personal attack on you. I would say this to anyone that starts a post like this!
i'm done with my ramblings now. hehehehhe
shea
Thank you. I agree with the last poster.
I hope your happy with what you did to me, You moron. I don't care if we have 2 classes together this year. I am never speaking to you again. Get out of my life and mind your own business please. It doesn't matter what you do though. I have the truth and that's all I need, and with that in mind, I am never posting to this board again. I've said my piece and that's all that matters. Shea, thanks for being honest and blunt. I gracefully respect your criticism and realized that I shouldn't have said anything at all on this damn board. Remember, Gandolph, stay out of my life.
Yes, ma'm.
As for me, I will continue to be friendly to you, and make an attempt at helping you out. You haven't seen anything yet, so if you want to keep going, go ahead.
Well, from what I see here, sure Sam, your father might not be an outstanding guy but as for the rest of this crap, Shea might have a point and you took it well however I do think everyone should just let it go. The only person that knows what did or did not happen with that guy in the bathroom is Sam and seeing that she has made it clear that nothing did happen I think people should respect her and let it go. As for the user Arigorn I am not shocked by what he wrote but on the same hand, I hope everyone learns from this and that they shouldn't go slinging shit on the boards about users they may or may not know in person. I think he was out of line and I am glad to see what his actions have resulted in. Again people don't go slinging shit if you don't know everything. I think people should have stayed on course with what the first post was and the support of what was going on with her dad. So if we might turn this around let's support her with that?!
With love and respect for sam,
The Fox
Agreed with Shea. If you want to discuss your private life you post a topic about it but then it's fair game that people divulge the relevant information. If you do not want to discuss your private life you don't do it publically, talk with a friend may be. I am not passing judgement whether she was or was not involved with a 37 year old, just saying if it were my daughter and I thought that was the case I would be extremely unhappy about it and as such would fully understand her dad.
Hey, this is the Rant board. Sam has ranted, and, I think, gotten a lousy shake for her efforts.
If she had posted it in the "let's talk" board that would be a different thing, but, I think that posting here gives her a lot of latitude from our back biteing and gosipping.
Just my opinion,
Bob
So, when someone posts to the rant board we just should agree with said person and all join up for a big "you are right, the world is wrong" festival.
It's certainly a point *grin*
heers
-B
B, I think even she would agree that her dad maybe right to be concerned about the 37 year old, and possibly chose the wrong issue to highlight the issues she has with her father, but that's past. it's also very interesting that the person making all the acusations was her ex bf, which she only discovered a couple of days ago, so maybe he had an axe to grind with his postings also.
My comments related to the fact he kept producing more information about the situation that should really have only been our business if she chose it to be, and not because someone else wanted to cause trouble.
aah I see. Well, he shouldn't really be replying to this but it kind of brings me back to the point I made, don't post personal stuff on the boards, you never know what it will lead to. She's probably learnt that by now actually *grin* well the hard way.
I agree with b and blkbird.
Lessons learned:
1. Don't post personal stuff to the boards unless you want it discussed.
2. Don't say things to the boards that you are going to regret later on.
3. Beware of exes grinding axes.
Did I forget anything?
Bob